I know a person who knew her, she was a snob, so to speak, but she didnt deserve to die. So whoever wrote Miramonte was a bad school and everyone cut everyone down, maybe it was you cause you werent socially accepted, and probably didnt make the best choices, or embarrassed yourself wanting the attention and. What was the most heart wrenching about this was a classmate girl was blamed and attacked by certain people for killing Kirsten, obviously she didnt. The full length picture of Kirsten with her hair tied back is so cute. I have been watching The Cheerleader Murder on my iPhone for a few years now, and one of the lines was, Bernadette was part of the in crowd, but she didnt see it! She had friends to, some were Bernadettes, and they dont care to hear from or about Bernadette anymore. Even Bernadette was to I bet. Its unknown what happened to Peter Costas (Kirstens younger brother). It was a strange time growing up around religious freaks. You never give examples of what Kirsten did. If not, I doubt she worries about the past. People like you expect the world to owe you something. She was a member of a highly selective sorority club called the Bobbies. Dylan and Eriks parents were loaded. That didnt happen that way. This is all clearly stated in the intro. Is it difficult to understand why a person might not respect the opinion of someone else who supports a murderer? I would suggest that you should be able to distinguish between a fictional depiction and reality, but judging from your comments it is clearly beyond your capacity to do so. Protti changed her name to Jeannette Butler legally after the horrible incident. I suffer from PTSD. I heard on here Joanna was bullied bad, so were quite a few others. from what I have read on different blogs from kids that actually went to school with both these girls they have said that this movie did not accurately portray either one of the girls and thats very frustrating for people who watch the movie and find themselves empathizing with the wrong person. So some of them will say Orinda had snobs. Although his first name is not known publicly, Angelas husband is a member of the Tomanka ethnic group and works as a marketing product manager. Angela Delvecchio pictures, video: Mac I didnt know Kirsten very well. After she married, her name changed again to Jeanette Tomanka and she and her husband, as well as their child, moved to Oregon. Bernadette really should have left her alone. She fit it fine and was considered to be popular in her own way. John even if Kirsten was as mean as Tori Spelling (which BTW she wasnt) that is still no right to Murder her. The family became active members of the Meadow Swim and Tennis Club, just a stones throw from their home. I am merely reading the comments after viewing the movie and indeed if the movie mischaracterized Bernadette then her parents should sue them. People, cant we all just get along and respect one anothers opinion? Poor bernadette seemed very vulnerable and in need of help. Call Angela S Delvecchio on phone number (207) 288-5119 for more information and advice or to book an appointment. I never thought she would go as far as murder. I just believe Bernadette pushed to hard on Kirsten and it weirded out. To the point that she knew she could . I believe they wouldnt allow you to read if you were in a group with them, thats there Nature towards people who they feel superior to. The only freak in this tragic story is Bernadette. No, it is about love, people. John Grisham, Kirsten was nothing like Tori Spelling at all. She turned it about herself! The Costas family is no longer mad and moved on so why cant you? Why couldnt her sister cut up the vegetables on the counter top where its sooo much easier??? Guys can be, girls are Worse. Lisa I totally agree. As for Kirsten making fun of outcasts, I agree every school has outcasts. Ok, I agree with you that Kirsten was better-looking, but you realize that Bernadette was part Italian, right? . Dont care how mean Kirsten was, that was uncalled for, you that defend Bernadette saying Kirsten was mean girl, do you realize Kirsten is gone forever, and will never be back, do you realize Bernadette took a Life! When they opened the door, they saw Kirsten and, behind her, another girl, who looked about fifteen, lurking out the path.. Bernadette was prettier. Bernadette will loose it again if she lost it once. We need an Memorial Page set up for Kirsten. She should have been happy With the circle of friends and family she had. I think Miramonte was like any School, you have your cliques and picks. Like you said, she is paying for it and has been for years. Normal teenagers they like I said, were crazy so to speak, and meant no harm towards Nancy and them, just harmless teasing, they were crazy like that. People who are spouting off on Kirsten are either Rejects, or friends or family of (Bernadette). People in Orinda arent worried about this so much anymore, for all over the World were in times of need and Sorrow. If you were a no body she didnt roll with you. Bernadette planned everything down to the last detail, even telling Kirstens Mum to ask Kirsten not to tell anyone about the supposed dinner that night. Maybe things wouldve been different for her and she would still be here today. Im sorry if I offended anybody here with my earlier comments. Kirsten wasnt a Bully. Kirsten would of long outgrown that before now, if she had of lived. She sometimes wore tie-dyed socks, what people are wearing now., Another recalls, I remember watching her after she made cheerleader. Some girls said she was mean to people, we all have opinions, but Im sure she was smart alecky at times, what teen girl isnt, even Bernadette was I bet as well. Some are quick, rich, own the finest and the most expensive of anything. Alexander and Mary Jane Arnold, who live in Moraga, had been playing cribbage with neighbors. This poor girl never got to grow up and experience life all because some horrible, disturbed girl murdered her. The reason why Bernadette killed Kirsten is because Kirsten didnt appreciated the fact that she was lured out of her house under the pretence of a Bobbies sorority initiation dinner by someone she wasnt friends or even acquaintances with. I am shocked to even read that some people think this 15 year old girl deserved to die because she could be a little snobby at school, I personally would prefer my children to be friends at school with a snobby girl than a cold blooded killer! For murder! She let 2:girls take the blame. My kid knows better than to bully others. Menu. Maybe Snooty, but no Bully. This whole story is just disgusting. Teenage years are hard on all of us. The only truly real statement that is completely believable is Bernadettes taped confession where she is mostly panicked about press and people knowing. Kirsten never gave Bernadette any thought. Bernadette will never escape her Image of what people have of her, no matter how Nice she becomes. I always noticed Bernadette would give Kirsten stares and mean looks at times. Rest In Peace Kirsten. Kirsten was a Bully, I had heard she was,, and heard she wasnt and it was hard to picture her as a Bully. On June 23, 1984, Costas was duped into attending a meal for the schools sorority-like Bob-o-Links by a bogus invitation. Theres way to much in Life than to be spending it chasing someone around over 30 years ago the justice system failed, its just pointless. God calls people home not Bernadette. As any 15 year old would.even today in 2015. [6], It took the police almost six months to find Costas' killer. NEXT: Netflix's Cheer: Where the Cheerleaders Are Now, 10 Awesome Facts You Need To Know About The Lifetime Film, A Friend To Die For, 90210's Tori Spelling Can't Be on Real Housewives Because She's 'Too Nice', 10 Best High School Movies Of All Time (Ranked By Rotten Tomatoes), Heroes: How Saving The Cheerleader Saved The World (It's Not What You Think, Netflix's Cheer: Where the Cheerleaders Are Now. After the awful occurrence, Protti changed her name officially and moved to a different location so that she might begin a new family there. If it was your child that was murdered for some idiotic reasonsIm sure your perspective would change. It wasnt about jealousy, the blond girl has a mental disorder. Bernadette Protti aka Angela Delvecchio is in Portland, Oregon with her husband and child. Adventurous, bold and incredibly attractive to look at. Gripping, sad, and just plain scary, A Friend to Die For premiered in September and was the highest-rated TV movie of 1994 (10 years after the actual murder.) Im embarrassed for her. Several on the site say Kirsten was Sweet Cute and Funny. After the death of her rival, Angela seems to blossom. Read the article, read more on the actual case, stop judging real people based on a low-budget lifetime movie. Youre no better than Bernadette haters as well. Though mortally wounded, she ran to Arthur Hillmans house across the street for help. Bunch of Bernadettes lurking around everywhere. Nobody was all that nice to each other because that was the culture parents included even more so than the kids. Angela Delvecchio : Monica, just let it go. What about its about time, the one who knew Kirsten? Yes Kirsten and them all thought they were better than a lot. That dont make her a terrible person cause she hand probaly only a handful she did t like. No Tori Spellings character in a fictionalized movie was a bit mean. She should of just left Kirsten alone and went on with other things, Kirsten wouldnt of gave her any thought otherwise, but she was just obsessed with Kirsten and Kirsten liking her, that was the main focus in her life, and it took Kirstens unfortunately. The boys at Miramonte liked Bernadettes childhood friend and Kirsten, none were interested in Bernadette. No reason for Murder cause someone is what you arent, or ever will be. Joe Kosla, where are you? If Bernadette isnt depressed it would be a Miracle. Bernadettes BFF. Everyone has an Opinion guess we will never know unless we truly knew them, and not Berns friends or Sisters who Comment bad stuff about Kirsten, of course they wont tell the true facts. So she is a Horrible girl. The bullying, the lies, the jealousy and competition is so toxic and they will murder your soul. Worry about this Virus that is killing people Worldwide. I knew nothing about this story until I saw it on lifetime and I actually felt really sorry for Kelly Martin who portrayed Bernadette protti. Maybe she did something to make it bad. Me! Theyre not looking forward to seeing her. Doesnt it seem weird that Bernadettes sister would have an 18-inch knife for cutting tomatoes? They have also lived in Hanford, CA. Note: This article may feature affiliate links, and purchases made may earn us a commission at no extra cost to you. However, Angela's confirmation is presided over by a priestrather than a bishop, and the priest at Stacy's funeral iswearing green vestments (which are for ordinary days) instead ofwhite, and the casket is draped with a white pall, not purple. Setting up a fake meeting and lying about a Party is Strange and Weird. If Kirsten wanted to smoke pot, Bern would of esp. ?lol go guys and do some research..the real Bernadette was very beautiful,(but poor) while the real Kristen was very average (but rich)Kristen well deserved her fate,all the bullies making others life miserableno sympathy from me at all. The movie, like most movies, is no an accurate account. So she didnt like Joanna or Nancy, she isnt Obligated to, or owe them anything. The tunehas long been mistaken as a tribute to the Protti/Costas murder case. Well based on the movie, Kristen came off as a total snob and bully. Her friends got to where they avoided her if possible. Dont matter if Kirsten was a bully or the meanest girl ever, you haters on her leave her alone and let her Rest In Peace. She was mean and Stuck up also. And in the movie, the big butcher knife sat between the 2 girls in the car. She reminds me of Stacey Dash a little. WOW MIRANDA, IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU MIGHT HAVE A TRIGGER TOO. Here you are, pretending you care, pretending you wanna help me, when all your really care about is being popular. Kirsten wasnt a bully. Even if Kirsten was mean, it still doesnt justify killing her. Even if Kirsten was a Snot, she would of grown out of it long before now. I just didnt bother with them. I agree Bernadette should of at least got 20 years like (Karen Severson and Laura Doyle) murder of Missy Availa, that happened a year after Kirstens like 5 hours South of us. These 15 vintage Halloween cards for kids were super cute ways to say boo! No more Bernadette has a point. She may of been Stuck up most Cheerleaders are, but she was no where near a Bully or made fun of people. [3] At the Costas home, Arnold, sitting in his car, saw Protti attack Costas. Being disgusted with the the murderers nonchalant behaviour after her brutal crime? I think the outcast girls there would say Kirsten was a (bully) chaise no one liked them, and they would say that. A few left our school, one who went out with a lot of football players getting wasted, she was demonized badly also. I believe she made a fool out of herself begging and crying to Kirsten about how she feels no one likes her ( which wasnt the true case then) and was kept repeatedly begging to Kirsten to be her (friend) and made a complete fool out of herself and it just freaked Kirsten out and scared her. My Son was Murders in a drug deal gone wrong. Whats worse is how the media played into all of this and have portrayed Kirsten as a girl who deserved this kind of horrific attack, nobody deserves to be tricked, stalked and stabbed in cold blood at 15 out any age. Kirsten in no way deserved to die. Is it so hard to do without hurt someone? Plenty of facts support that view. Regardless of what it's called, the important message is the same: bullying has a profound effect on young people and can cause them to do harm to either themselves or others. Oh youre so pretty and popular and amazing I think thats what Kirsten meant by her friend getting weird Then she killed her rather than have Kirsten tell everyone she was a lesbian. IN REALITY, Kristen was, at worst, sometimes catty to Bernadette. A popular and pretty cheerleader, Kirsten Costas, was dead, and sheriff's deputies were searching for the girl who stabbed her. If she didnt like someone , there was a reason. Her parents poor,.. yes, but spent money on that. Not a plaine jane.get real. In 1984, California's Miramonte High School cheerleader and all-around popularteen, Kirsten Costas, was murdered by her classmate Bernadette Protti, who was not only jealous of Kirsten's high-profile life but bitter and resentful that she took did not get picked for cheerleading or the yearbook committee. They might not win but they can make a case for smearing the name of their daughter if indeed she was not a bully. Bernadettes family lived in a more expensive area than Kirsten, so what does that tell you? Thank God Im out of high school now and dont have to deal with all that social crap. I do remember she was very insecure and would pick on B clearly an attempt to boost her confidence. Excuse my long reply. How many teen girls dont get Smart Aleck, its a normal part of a teens life. So she was a Bully, she is not here to defend herself any longer, so youre the Bully now. She lured Kirsten out of her house under false pretences to the non existent sorority dinner and then drove Kirsten to an empty car-park at night. Im sure Kirsten had her moments, no right to be Savagely Murdered. That pain of being relentlessly bullied stays with you your whole life and your self worth is damaged. I cant get to the point quickly. The caller identified herself as a Bobbie, and told Berit she knew Kirsten was away until the weekend, but asked if she would be able to attend an initiation dinner for new Bobbies that Saturday night. My comments arent gossip. The main point so many of you are missing is a beautiful young girl lost her life! Im not sure shes really sick, I just hear she is, and doesnt leave her home hardly. Rupaul and Sarah, Bernadette has friends and fit in. Bernadette admitted to many friends she craved the wealthy life, and hated that her own parents (whom I feel sorry for) were so old. Bernadette deserved the same sentence as would any get it doesnt matter even if she was a juvenile at the time she.should have been trialed as an adult. She let it be known. A Murderer, So Kirsten was a Snob, a lot of ppl are, the way she died,was Horrific. You know movies arent real, dont ya? Most people would be angered and perturbed by that kind of behavior. Kirsten, who appeared tense but not terrified, said, My friend got weird on me. She asked to call home. As for knowing her Personally I didnt, I know someone who did, she was Bubbly and full of Jokes and Laughs. Do I believe Kirsten was a Mean girl (bully) not at all, I believe she had those she didnt like and may of been Snooty towards that got on her nerves. B was so quiet of a person we figured just talking about something like that made her sick. She was the (In crowd) Bernadette was desiring to be the incrowd. Your email address will not be published. Check your Stories and facts before you post Nonsense. I hear one girl partied a lot that hung with them. To a degree Bernadette struggled harder than most of her friends, she wasnt as Popular as they were and was a little of an Outcast, but Tolerated. Paris Mahone did you know Kirsten? Kirsten had a good heart though. Please explain how Bernadette was pushed to the brink? I thought Kirsten was a very pretty little thing. I think both girls were good girls, and I think one just got frustrated over a fake invitation, and I do believe Bernadette made a (butt) of herself to Kirsten, and it was all Kirsten could take. People need others not bullying. Her parole would have gone ahead sooner apparently but in 1992 one of the parole board Victor Wisehart voted to keep her in jail as she showed an inability to control her anger and he felt that she was still a danger to the public, she had had a violent altercation with a boyfriend in the prison/school system, he said there was a hidden trigger that switched on when she didnt get her own way! I wasnt a cheerleader at all, I was in some clubs at school,( not Bobbies or Atlantis) but Spanish. That girl on Deadly Women who portrayed Kirsten was almost perfect, watch Landscape Suicide and they show a girl portraying Kirsten talking on the phone and laughing listening to Music, that is the closest to Kirsten Costas that can be described the best. Jealousy is an ugly thingmuch like bernadette. One person said Missy was mean and a bully and she bullied them bad well that person and you are the same, Justifying Murder cause someone was mean, or Stuck up. No one is bothering her anymore. Cause Bern for weeks went on and on about Kirsten to where her friends kept getting tired of hearing it. Plenty of Italians are natural blondes. Bern was more well off than a lot of people in the Neighborhood she grew up in. Bernadettes parents also left Orinda, but its unknown if they left the state of California. What? You the one who told about the girls ran out of Miramonte as well. Missy was Described as a Bully and Very Mean also. Bernadette is hiding out, dont know about the depression, but she is in hiding and dont want her location exposed now, not sure if she is married anymore, but shes not working, she is somewhere out of State close to a family member. It'snot too hard to believe that the "it" actors in young Hollywood - especially those who worked the TV movie-of-the-week circuit - were friendly or had been co-workers previously. Movie portrayed Kirsten as a Snotty girl, when really she was just down to Earth and Vivacious and fun Loving. But those others today are still a lot of fun. She is still remembered for her heinous crime- murdering a young girl named Kirsten Marina Costas in 1984. I think Bernadette went about it in the wrong way. She as I said, didnt want to be bothered with stupid acting people. Firstly, Bernadette is an insentient and abhorrent human being. She eventually went by Jeanette Tomanka after getting married, changing her name after the event. Your email address will not be published. Also Bernadette wasnt bullied or singled out, thats BS. Shame on you. Do I think it was premeditated. She could block it out of her mind (her words). If we all got along with everyone then it would be boring. and the one who was ran out of School for getting drunk at a Party and messing with ajocks? Im irritated. She is evil and a Monster (with a very dark Soul). Her inadequacies were all created by her and in her own head and she murdered Kirsten as a result. I heard Kirsten was self absorbed, but no bully. All of the pictures featured here are photos taken from newspapers, not the authors private collection. I cant assimilate anyone on the appearance to defend a so-called bullying. Karma is catching up with her, thats why she has all these haters and has to watch her back anywhere she goes. Kirstens house was Smaller than Bernadettes, how was Kirsten all around was she friendly? Kirsten fell and sprang up again. She acted like Kirsten except Kirsten was (more funny). Shes on the East Coast last I heard, I hear shes fine health wise, and some say she wasnt feeling well awhile back, not sure why, shes mellowed out a lot through the years. I wouldnt doubt it cause thats how much she is hated in Orinda. I hardly knew this girl. ( Some did) I did cause it was getting ridiculous. Were you bullied and had to defend yourself and going by that with Bernadette? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I honestly thought Bernadette wouldve looked worse. She didnt Bully Bernadette, Just was irritated cause she lied to her, and her mom about the Party, and all. Bernadette was and most likely still is a highly disturbed individual. She was outgoing even as a nurse, but now, I hear she dont really associate with anyone outside of family. I hear a lot of them still get together on Occasions, and others have moved on. Was Bernadette fragile when she took Catechism classes with one of the accused girls and would have no doubt seen the emotional toll being falsely accused of murder would have taken on the girl, yet she acted like nothing was amiss. She didnt have time to (bully). I think Kirsten was friends with Bernadette or she would of never gotten in her car, Kirsten was funny who she associated with. No other word. The movie and rolling stone for both girls in a narrative to sell newspapers. Bernadette was just as nice as we were on swim team together growing up. As I wrote in another comment to you, If Bernadette killed Kirsten because she was bullied and put down by her, why didnt she give examples at her trial which would have strengthened her case? [3] The Costases' neighbors called an ambulance, but Kirsten was mortally wounded and died at a nearby hospital. "[3] When Costas could not reach her parents by telephone, Alex Arnold drove her home, noticing that the Protti family's Pinto was following them. However, she did not deserve to die. Her clumsiness makes her a liability on offense, but on defense it almost helps her." Angela Delvecchio (player ID: 3) is a female player and the third of the 30 backyard kids in terms of alphabetical order. Some 86 graduate girls felt ridiculed and belittled by them as well as I did and others. We all have moved on, and went on with our Lives since that tragic episode. She doesnt leave her house hardly at all anymore. Dont let that sweet innocent act fool you. homely? But they never said! We all have someone we dont like, and we wont be liked by everybody. Every School has kids people dont like! She would of never Confessed but FBI got involved, and were closing in on her. If Mrs. Cistss forgave Bernadette then great. Bernadette is a Weirdo as Kirsten spotted, this wasnt about Bullying, it was about being called out in front of the School, and tarnishing her reputation, which in the long run it did. [7], Protti claimed to have found the kitchen knife by chance, and her elder sister, Virginia Varela, testified in court that she kept that knife in her car to cut vegetables. She loved life, never seen her get ugly with anyone, I really cant picture that. Youre going off the crappy movie. Kirsten was attending cheerleading camp, living in a dorm at St Marys College in nearby Moraga, when Berit Costas received a seemingly uneventful call on Thursday, June 21, 1984. for what i read the cheerleader was mean to bernadette protti,the cheerleader always thought she was prettier than bernadette and didnt want to be her friend.kirsten the cheerleader always hurt her feelings.have you seen the movie with tori spelling?death of the cheerleader. Still wasnt right. Killed a girl because you were jealous? The tragedy is some of you morons cannot get through your head that you cannot make the world like you!!! So I would say to any bully, we all have our weaknesses,. Not to mention all over the world. The whole movie seems based on stuff Bernadette said and from her point of view which is a bit unfair. Amen Shelly. They are Cat Mean. They probably rubbed her the wrong way, or got on her nerves somehow. RELATED: Red Dead Redemption 2 & 9 Other Video Games That Make You Feel Like A Frontiersman Wherever the group went, they were noticed. Whoever remotely tries to justify that must not have children. Dont matter if the girl bullied her. I read alot om her to. Shut up already and get a life. You have those girls in all schools, you just go on and leave them be, and hang with your own friends. Why are you contradicting yourself? Note: ClickAmericana.com features authentic historical information, and is not intended to represent current best practices on any topic, particularly with regard to health and safety. Karen I believe on that fateful night In The car Bernadette was pushing a friendship was was adamant and persistent about it. It stayed with me for many years, not as bad as it did, but it did for a long time. I think she confessed to Kirsten how she loved her and wanted to be her and it freaked Kirsten out. I didnt really know her, just who she was, same for Bernadette. Bernadette was kind to. Bernadette pushed her by her false Alibies. I believe the conversation was very bizarre to, about desperation of a friendship. Details About His Custody, Dust Bunny: Who Is It? I cant stand snobby bitches who put others down and bully them. She was Bubbly and Gregarious, loved to have a great time. Not youre so called Sweet friend Bernie. Maybe it wasnt a big national story at the time, and was more of a California Bay area story (Im from Illinois). Nickname: Sugar Pop. Well based on the movie Yeah, thats your problem. To much detailed stuff if you ask me. How tragic she was murdered over basically nothing. Kirsten was adorable. Well she had her Spirits and was funny ( if not funnier) like that. She wont be going back to Orinda its highly likely she wont. You are a sick minded individual to perpetuate that lie about Kirsten, but I suppose its easier for you and your ilk to criticize a dead teenager because she its not like she can defend herself, is it? Paris Mahone, did you even know Kirsten? Map and Directions. Nope! Bernadette then drove Kirsten to an empty car-park and appears to have confessed feelings of admiration for her. Think of what youre sayingfragile ppl dont turn to homicide. Miramonte sounds like it had its share of Bullying. Every Murdered person was once someones child, parent, sibling or spouse. Bernadette protti longed to be popular and she decided to kill an innocent person just because she couldnt have things get way.thats sad. I so disagree with some of the posters. To anyone that wishes to support Kirstens memory, and believes Kirsten didnt deserve what happened to her, please have a look at, and join her Facebook Memorial Page. If you did your research, you would know that Kirsten didnt bully Bernadette. Birthday: 12/20. Bernadette was not only bitter and resentful that she was not selected for cheerleading or the yearbook committee, but she was also envious of Kirstens well-known life and the success she had achieved. You got kids in all school people try to duck away from and avoid. That Movie had Tori Spelling kind of a Bully. Thats a win win. Kirsten was very Popular, but there were a few a little more Popular, why didnt Bern go after them and befriend them, the girls on Homecoming Court, and in the Atlantis Club. Mats you knew those Girls? The release of Protti was met with vehement opposition from Costass parents. She had plenty of friends like in the film who loved her, but she cared only about superficial things, and people. Most cheerleader s are friendly, and yes at the same time, kind of stuck up, to a degree, they only run with certain groups, but they will say hello to you, and help you if you need it. I know a gal who knew someone who knew Kirsten. Mats Kirsten probaly didnt like you, dont mean she was that way to everybody. 400 North Ingalls Building. She just acted Odd a lot. I attended school in New York City and there are nothing but cliques. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.